What ZERO Alcohol Has Taught Me About Life

This past January (2016), I really called into question the immense amount of influence that alcohol had on my life. Now that I’m ~8 months into full sobriety (read pregnancy), I’m starting to notice some things that really scare me.

I grew up around alcohol. I grew up around alcoholics. It was pretty normal for me to smell booze on my parents breath when they put me to bed- a smell that I’m now growing to hate.

I don’t want to sit on my high horse and become all judgmental about drinking, because I personally have abused alcohol in a terrible way in the past. I do however want to share some things I’ve been noticing that really don’t sit well with me anymore now that I’m clear headed enough to see them for what they are.

The first is, how okay it is with everyone to hear stories about how obliterated you got and nearly killed yourself or did something completely morally apprehensive or risky.

People think it’s absolutely hilarious to hear how you were so inebriated on the weekend, or at the holiday party that you could barely function. If someone were recounting a story about how messed up they got on any other drug other than alcohol (think cocaine or MDMA) we might express our concern to them and maybe tell them to be more careful in the future. But with alcohol? No way, party on Garth.

Second, is how much alcohol has stolen our ability to create meaningful experiences without it. Alcohol is everywhere, it’s a part of nearly every occasion. We drink when we’re happy, we drink when we’re sad, we drink when we’re bored and we drink to relax.

Why is everything better with alcohol? Is it because we’ve all gotten so lazy with our imaginations that we don’t know how to entertain ourselves anymore? Is it because we have such short attention spans that regular paced, fresh minded activity is unbearable?

I’ll tell you one thing for sure, if you want to feel boredom- be the only sober person in a room of people drinking just to get drunk. That will give you some insight into the quality of drunk conversation and activity.

Do you remember a time when you were young enough that you didn’t drink to have fun? Do you recall experiences, like going to the beach or over to a friends house, that were fully, consciously lived through?

I won’t lie to you, I forgot. I forgot that life is actually not disappointing without the lubrication of alcohol. I forgot that you can be silly and fun without alcohol. I forgot about imagination and what ifs and happiness that wasn’t greased up by booze.

Being sober is like rediscovering the world.

I now feel so sad that I used to feel the need to constantly escape from reality. And if you had told me that was what I was doing about 12 months back I would have denied it vehemently.

We are all collectively numbing and escaping. We live in a world that’s continually on and in our faces, and surprisingly it’s making us less and less present.

While there is so much more information on mindfulness available to us, it’s like we can barely handle our own emotions anymore.

It’s hard to consciously shape your life and become the person you want to be when you’re constantly recovering from a hangover. It’s like trying to keep up with a conveyor belt of choices that’s moving a bit too fast and easily overwhelms you.

I believe not drinking has forced me to slow down and to open my eyes more. To look around and see how easy it is to fall into the trap of binge drinking weekly and letting your life slip by.

I was pretty surprised to find out the definition of heavy drinking. According to Statistics Canada, heavy drinking is reported to be drinking 5 or more drinks (4 for women) in one sitting, 12 or more times a year. A whopping 32 per cent of Canadians aged 20 to 34 binged 12 times in the past year.

That’s only once a month. HA!
I would have called that light drinking over a year ago!

An article in Prevention Magazine stated that (in the US) more than 38 million people reported binge drinking 4 times a month (weekend warriors). That’s “heavy drinking times four.

Wow.

And the scary part is, it’s increasing like crazy; especially among women. Binge drinking has increased at a rate seven times that of men. 20% of women who binge drink will meet the criteria for Alcohol Use Disorder, which is the fancy new term for alcoholism.

This kind of drinking is one of the main reasons for the rising rates of infertility which is now at 1/6 couples in Canada.

I’ll admit it-I was an alcoholic.

It wasn’t the blackouts that scared me enough to stop, it wasn’t the increased risk in heart disease or high blood pressure or even the smoking that always seemed to go along with the drinking.

It was the almost losing someone I loved dearly because of my poor judgment while drinking.

Because I was raised in what you might call a broken home and I still watch my mother waste away slowly from alcohol and drug abuse, family has become my number one focus in life.

I want to break the cycle of alcohol use and abusive relationships in my family, and part of that means changing the way I view alcohol. It means changing the way I raise my children to view alcohol.

Alcohol is awesome. It can be refined and delicious (I love a glass of good red wine) and even have health benefits- for sure.

But the truth is alcohol needs more respect, and so do our lives.

Alcohol shouldn’t be tossed into the mix just because it can. It should be used as a complement to our experiences and not the be the centre of them.

The less I drink, the less I care to be around people who are sloppily tossing them back.

I don’t want my future baby around that either. I want my kids to grow up full of wonder for the world and not feel like when they hit a certain age that drinking should become one of the top activities in their lives.

I don’t want our family dinners and events to become soaked in booze like mine were.

I don’t want my children to have painful feelings they feel trapped by that they try to escape from by drinking weekly.

I don’t want my children to feel like they NEED alcohol to unplug and relax.

I want my children to have clear heads, to learn how to sit with their emotions and process them rather than shove them away and drown them.

I don’t want to make excuses for my drunk friends and family to my children. But the sad truth is, I will probably have to. Because there’s always that one drunk relative who gets too emotional, or that one friend that starts saying something inappropriate. And if I am the one to call everyone’s drinking into question, then I’m the prude and I’m judgmental and uptight.

Like I said, I think alcohol is great- and sure there will be times when we all dip into the sauce a little too heavily. What I’m getting at here is that I just think it’s already a bit much.

I’m craving more real life, and I’m super excited to spend early evenings and early mornings with a tiny little rugrat that’s naturally silly and goofy and doesn’t yet feel self-conscious enough to require a drug to enjoy a weekend afternoon.

Most of what I’m expressing here is a reflection of my own experience, how I have viewed life and why I have already spent so many years drinking so much.

If you feel judged by this post, I’m not sorry. It probably means you should have a conversation with yourself about why you feel that way.

After I have this precious little miracle baby, I fully intend to enjoy a few glasses of wine a week and maybe two on some occasions.

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Being Secretly Pregnant – What the first trimester is really like

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I am so excited to finally share this with all of you! It’s official; I can shout it from the condo-tops- I am with child! I have been for over 15 weeks but it’s been a big secret. It’s also been the strangest secret I’ve ever had to keep. Everyone kind of knows that when you get pregnant there are some things that happen to you. Maybe you’ve read some stuff, but I want to tell you right now, nothing will properly prepare you for the first 3 months of creating a human, especially when it’s all top secret.

If you’ve followed me for a little while, you’d know that I know a fair amount about pregnancy and about babies. I am a Preconception Nutritional Therapist and a Doula. That means I’ve spent a lot of time reading about pregnancy symptoms and how to prepare your body for a healthy pregnancy. I had a pretty good idea what I was getting myself into when my husband and I made the decision to have a baby. However, in all my reading I never stumbled upon any articles or blogs that described any of the psychological phenomenon that I’ve been experiencing.

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It has been truly incredible and almost indescribable, but I’m going to do my best to tell you what the first trimester has been in comparison to what I was expecting.

The moment I knew I was pregnant **which was through a dream I had in which I felt a zap that meant I was definitely pregnant** I went completely inward. Maybe you noticed that I virtually disappeared off of social media and stopped sending out anything new. There was something that happened inside of me that redirected all of my creative energy towards this little baby I am making. It left absolutely nothing for me to put out into the world for my followers- and I was and still am completely okay with that. For the first time ever, I felt no obligation whatsoever to create anything, because I knew I was creating something WAY more important than any YouTube video or Instagram post could ever offer.

I have really come to believe that the first trimester isn’t talked about enoughIn 12 weeks you are basically creating an entire human and you grow an entirely new organ (the placenta). After 12 week, the goal of your little fetus is to mature all of its new systems and grow bigger, but all the most formative work is already done. When we imagine the difficult part of pregnancy we automatically think about the last couple months when ladies have a big old belly and their feet hurt etc. While that is definitely also a trying portion of creating a human, there is SO much going on in the first trimester too that you don’t ever hear about.

Let me tell you a bit about it. I’ll start with morning sickness because that’s what most of us imagine when we think about the beginning of a pregnancy. Morning sickness is this strange feeling that can best be described as nausea, and some women actually do get sick and throw up.  Luckily, I did not ever actually get to that point, I was definitely very nauseous but that wasn’t it. It’s not really just nausea; it’s this feeling of being taken over by some alien force. I honesty felt like a zombie for quite awhile. Some days I wasn’t exactly nauseous, but I was simply repulsed by everything. Everything was more overwhelming that it should have been. It was as though my senses were turned up to level 10, and it was a lot to handle.

It’s totally true about smells as well, you can smell everything and it’s not pleasant. I could smell the Tabasco on my husband’s pork chop from across the room and his cologne suddenly grossed me out too. I stopped posting on Instagram because I couldn’t handle cooking and I definitely had nothing that I felt was “post-worthy” in my diet. I will share more with you about my nutrition during my first trimester later on.

The fatigue is also so real. I think this part really surprised me. I was nearly knocked off my feet and it makes perfect sense, but no one really tells you. It takes a hell of a lot of energy to make a new human! It can be compared to running a marathon, literally. They say your body is expending more energy at rest than it would be if you were running a marathon.

Okay, so I’m supposed to be feeling like a zombie and barely keeping my eyes open and you mean I’m not supposed to tell anyone what’s going on with me AND I’m likely expected to keep up the same amount of productivity in my day to day life? HA.

I feel for you ladies who work in offices and in situations where you have a lot of coworkers you need to be around on a day-to-day basis. I feel incredibly lucky that I could hide out at home or around other ladies who just had babies for the majority of this trimester and that I had the ability to tell the people that mattered what was going on with me.

The nausea and fatigue were probably almost the heaviest hitters, and I’m still on the physical stuff! I was also super surprised by how breathless I became. About a week after becoming pregnant, I noticed that after walking up a hill I felt like I had just done 20 minutes of cardio in the gym. I was huffing and puffing and I couldn’t believe it! I thought that only happened later when you get tired from carrying around all that extra weight. But no! Your body starts to produce a ton of extra blood and your hemoglobin doesn’t catch up quickly enough. Therefore it’s harder for your body to re-oxygenate; hence, breathlessness. Walking up stairs is TOUGH hahaha and I am a pretty fit girl!

Another big surprise was the having to pee constantly. I was under the impression that only happened when your baby got big enough to squish your bladder. However in the first trimester, your body produces a ton of progesterone and that causes your kidneys to become highly active which sends you running to the bathroom constantly. Most nights I have to get up 2-3 times to relieve myself. I think this is Mother Nature’s way of sleep training YOU right from the beginning!

A few other things that happened that also surprised me were just how big my boobs got and how quickly that happened (I think it was about a cup size in a week), how dizzy I can get, and my lack of interest in any meat (even chicken).

So, while all of this physical stuff is going on you also have this huge task of absorbing the fact that YOU HAVE A HUMAN IN YOU! That’s kind of a big deal. It’s sort of a huge thing to process.  

Okay so you pee on a stick, and you get the two lines and it’s like okay, I’m pretty sure that means I’m pregnant. Then you go get blood work done and it comes back positive (we did it twice to make sure the hormone levels were doubling as they should be) and then you’re like okay well that means I’m definitely pregnant. Then we went and had an internal ultrasound done because we had the help of some reproductive technology in our conception, and that also confirmed the pregnancy. So now, we’re at more than triple confirmation that it’s really true. But let me ask you this- if someone told you everyday that you had a human growing inside of you, how many days would it take before you really truly believed it?

I know, you have all these symptoms to corroborate the pregnancy, but do you really tie it all together and believe it? Does it sink in and do you digest it, process it and assimilate it? Maybe some people do, but this was a lot for me. I don’t even think I really still believe it! And let me tell you, I’ve wanted to be pregnant for a long time. I’m one of those women who always wanted to be a mother. Ever since I was a little girl that was one of the top things on my life’s to-do list. But still, it’s really mind blowing to look down at your belly and imagine the whole world of activity just beneath a few layers of tissue.

I would say it wasn’t until we had our 12 week ultrasound and we saw that little boo kicking around and sucking on it’s perfect little hand that I really believed there was a real little soul in there. I’m still astounded when I look at my belly and I’m really not even showing yet.

So there’s the processing of the fact that you are doing what you are doing, and then there’s this whole other layer of thought- I am becoming a mom. Woah. Boom. Explosions. Life changing. Self-perception changing. Society’s views of me changing. Waaaaaaa. Woah.

Yes.

I was walking through the mall the other day and looking at all the models in the store windows thinking, these women are not moms. Even if the models are moms themselves, these women are not what the media portrays as moms. Then I had this feeling like none of this was meant for me anymore. None of this super-cool, sexy, stylish stuff was for me anymore. I’m a mom now.

Now don’t get me wrong here, I don’t think a mom can’t be sexy, cool, stylish etc. It’s just that, that’s not really what is being projected by the majority of what we are exposed to in movies, magazines etc. If you are a mom who is those things you are either put on a pedestal because you are going “against the grain” and other women want to as well but it’s too much to juggle OR you are a mom who is those things and you are bashed and torn down from every possible angle because it must mean you’re a bad mom.

Yikes. I’m about to enter those waters. I’m about to enter that space where nothing you do can possibly be right. Where you constantly battle your conscience, the messages that are pouring in from all sides and the desire to be true to yourself.

There is a HUGE mental battle in the mom-space to be the best mom possible but maintain a sense-of self. I feel like that might be the biggest fear of all moms, especially moms who decide to stay home with their children. Society does not appreciate the magnificence of being a mother, and the incredible importance of that job. It tells us the only way we can be valuable in this world is to have accomplishments that come with a dollar value.  We feel that in order to be important we must use our brains, be the cleverest, be the smartest and to play on the same playing field as men. Society is encouraging us to be lovelier versions of men, but when we become moms we do more than double that.

It’s like we have to prove our womanhood all over again when we become moms and that is a really strange feeling to have and I’m not even IN IT yet.

I feel like I’m about to join a club where all the support that I need is from other moms, and yet there is this under-tone of constant disapproval within that very group. It’s kind of scary!

I know most women say that they think it’s awesome for women to have the choice to stay at home with their kids. I also think that secretly, deep down they would never make that choice because they wouldn’t feel valued by society. It’s just deeply engrained in us that mom-work is not “real-work”. In my opinion, our society’s biggest problems have come alongside the downfall of the family unit. And who is that has historically been the person who glues a family together? Mom.

I’m not entirely sure how we can change these perceptions, but I think a lot of it comes back to the devaluing of femininity and feminine energy. I think femininity is completely misunderstood and often linked with weakness whether consciously or subconsciously. I know for a long time I thought I had to be more a like a guy in many ways to be a better woman but I’m currently doing the work to reprogram myself.

Part of my journey is to dive into and honor my feminine energy and respect the power that is inherent within that. I feel like the world needs more women to ditch the masculine pissing contest and figure out how to really support other women and especially other mothers.

*As a side note, men can have a dominant feminine energy as well. Men can also stay home with the children. Both should be equally accepted. My point is here is mainly about women, their sense of self and how motherhood is viewed by the majority.*

I don’t know how this is all going to play out in my life but it just seems to be another hugely scary part of pregnancy- all of the unknowns (probably just a small intro to the crazy uncertainty of parenthood). What I do know is I’m ready for this. I’m ready for the surprises and the challenges. I’m ready to share all I learn along the way- and hopefully to become a part of a movement to reclaim the respect that motherhood deserves.

xo Milli

Ps. If you are in the process of trying to get pregnant, if you are considering it within the next year or two, or you’re already pregnant- I want to meet YOU! Come and join me and a group of supportive women in my private Facebook community Radiant & Ready with Milli Fox.  Click the title of the group to come join!

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Why is Choosing so Confusing Part 2: How Much of ______ Should I Eat?

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Last week I posted the introductory article to the Food Selection Guideline Series. If you haven’t seen that yet, please check it out here.

The four food selection principles that I’ll be covering in this series are as follows:

  1. Incorporate a proper balance of fats, proteins and carbohydrates in your diet.
  2. Think Variety. Think Seasonally. Think Locally.
  3. Research your water supply and select a good source and/or filtering system.
  4. Avoid refined and denatured foods including:
    • Refined and hydrogenated vegetable oils
    • Refined sugar and corn syrup products
    • White flour products
    • Canned foods
    • Pasteurized, homogenized, skim and low-fat dairy products
    • Artificial vitamins
    • Toxic additives and colorings
    • Refined table salt

The first food selection guideline refers to getting the right amount of the right type of food. That sounds pretty straightforward, but I know that it’s actually the most confusing and complex for the majority of people.

Fats, Proteins and Carbohydrates are called macronutrients. They are the 3 big boys in the nutrition world. All foods fit into one of these categories, and many foods fit into more than one category. You need foods from all three. Always.

Any diet that tells you to cut out a full macronutrient group is dead wrong and you should really never consider adopting a diet like this. Each macronutrient plays a vital role in your health and vitality. And although your body is an incredibly intelligent organism, it can only compensate for so long before it starts to malfunction if its not getting what it needs! (I’m referring to the low-carb and no-carb diets like the Ketogenic diet, which has its time and place)

Throughout history, humans across the globe have survived and thrived on vastly different macronutrient ratios. From the Inuit peoples who ate mostly whale blubber to African tribes who survived on mainly root vegetables, it’s clear to see that we truly are perfect omnivores. While humans can eat such a variety of foods, we all have our own unique ancestry that gives us a genetic predisposition to do our best on specific ratios of macronutrients.

What if you don’t know what that looks like for you? You can start with a standard macronutrient ratio and adjust it based on how you feel. A standard recommended ratio that I use with my clients is:

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If that were to be on a plate it would look something like this:

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Protein is pretty straightforward. One serving of protein is about the size of your palm. Trying to get one full serving of protein in each meal is very beneficial. Protein is the building block of your body and helps you build and maintain your muscles and connective tissues. If you want to stay strong and vital long into the afternoon of your life, then prioritize high quality sources of protein.

Whenever you can you should try to select organic meat. I know it’s expensive, but the truth is it’s really worth the extra money. Not only because the nutrient profile of humanely raised animals is much better for us (making it actually less expensive per kg), but also because you aren’t exposing yourself to antibiotics and extra hormones. On top of the fact that it will help you sleep better at night knowing you’re doing something to go against the nasty state of factory farming.

I believe the part of figuring out how much to eat that people have the most trouble with is in understanding and visualizing what 30% fat actually looks like in real life.

For a 2000-calorie diet, 30% will work out to around 65 grams of fat a day, an example of that looks roughly like this:

2 tbsp grass-fed butter

1 tbsp coconut oil

2 whole eggs

½ avocado

1 6oz serving of sirloin steak

I personally know that 30% fat is a bit low for me, I can eat this much fat at breakfast 😛

There is absolutely nothing wrong with thriving on a higher fat diet. Forty, fifty even sixty percent fat diets can be very good for some of us.  The great thing about fat is that it often reduces cravings for sweets and leaves you feeling full for longer. Fat is a slow burning fuel and our body does very well when it’s trained to run off of fat rather than relying solely on sugar (carbohydrates).

Speaking of carbohydrates, I know they are also a large source of confusion. Let me break it down for you- any carb that comes from the ground, or a bush, or a tree- is not a “bad carb”. Your diet should consist of 15% of complex, starchy carbs (think potatoes, plantains, sweet potatoes etc.) and the rest should be low-glycemic carbs like leafy greens, colourful veggies as well as 2-3 servings of fruits.

Carbohydrates that come from a factory or a processing plant are however always undesirable. Some processed foods are not as bad as others, but the reality is- foods come from nature in the form that they were meant to be consumed. The more things that are added and taken away from them, the harder time the body has in dealing with them.

Let me clear that up a little more. In nature, foods come with the ratios of vitamins, minerals, and macronutrients that work best together. The body gets a complimentary package of nutrients that makes digestion and absorption of vitamins and minerals  much easier.

When foods have nutrients taken away through different forms of processing, the body has a more difficult time absorbing what’s left because often times vitamins and minerals work as cofactors for one another (i.e. they help each other get into our cells). Additionally, when foods are fortified with extra vitamins, think milk and vitamin D, the body has a hard time using those as well because they aren’t being served in the proper packaging. On top of the fact that the body can’t use the majority of synthetic vitamins anyway!

This is why I can’t stress to you enough that when it comes down to it, you should JUST EAT REAL FOOD. JERF BABY!

Don’t worry about which protein bar is best, just eat a real source of protein. Don’t worry about which cracker is healthiest, or which sprouted organic bread or pasta is the best, just don’t buy it!

I know our lives are heavily based upon what’s most convenient, but the truth is that all the other stuff really won’t matter if you don’t have your health.

I am all about taking it one step at a time with getting healthier- and I know it’s a long road. I’ve been trying to make changes gradually for more than six years and I still have a long way to go. But health is not a destination; it’s a way of travelling.

If you’re still feeling overwhelmed and think you could use help getting started, email me at millifox@live.com  with the subject line HELP! and we can set up a time for a free consultation.

PS. Stay tuned for Parts 3-5 coming soon!

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Why is Choosing so Confusing- A Guide to Food Selection (Part 1)

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As a Nutritional Therapist, I strongly believe that a properly prepared, nutrient dense, whole foods diet is the ultimate foundation that leads to optimal health.

Although there are a variety of other pillars that rest upon this foundation, if we don’t start here we will never be truly healthy. The problem is that many of us get stuck and never figure out what a healthy diet actually means for us as individuals.

Unfortunately, this has a lot to do with the fact that we are fed a lot of misleading information about food. Which ones are bad, which ones are good and which ones are “superfoods”. Ultimately, the truth is- THERE IS NO ONE DIET THAT IS OPTIMAL FOR ALL OF US.

Let me repeat that and rephrase it in as many ways as I possibly can.

There is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all diet.

We all need different ratios of macronutrients, different amounts of food in each meal, and different meal timings to feel our best. We all come from different lines of heritage that survived and adapted to specific environmental influences and developed unique tolerances and intolerances for different types and ratios of foods.

IMMEDIATELY put down any magazine and exit out of any blog article that tries to feed you “the perfect diet”. Even and ESPECIALLY for weight-loss.

I know its tough to digest (haw haw) , but you’re going to have to use the good old, tried and tested method of trial and error to figure out what your body is asking for and what your body thrives upon.

The reality is that people of the world can thrive on drastically different diets and not face the debilitating illnesses that we are now facing in the western world.

Some of the most interesting work I’ve ever read was by a dentist named Dr. Weston A. Price who travelled the world studying the diets of indigenous people of a variety of climates. What he found was absolutely amazing.

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Dr. Price found that the diets of these people varied incredible amounts, however, the groups of people who were the healthiest all met a certain set of criteria when it came to what and how they ate. These commonalities were:

  1. Their diet contained no refined or heavily processed foods.
  2. They used some types of animal products, with some raw.
  3. Their diets were four times as high in calcium and other minerals and encompassed 10 times the amount of fat-soluble vitamins as the modern diet.
  4. They included foods with high enzyme contents.
  5. Seeds, nuts and grains were soaked, sprouted, fermented or naturally leavened.
  6. Fat content varied from 30-80% of total calories, but only 4% from poly-unsaturated fatty acids.
  7. Contained nearly equal amounts of Omega-3 and Omega-6 fatty acids.
  8. Contained some salt (real salt).
  9. Made use of bones, usually as broth.

Another astonishing thing that Dr. Price found was that when any of these groups strayed from their traditional diets for one closer to a western diet, their health rapidly declined and these changes were immediately visible in the development of any offspring born during that time.

***If you’d like to read more about Dr. Weston A. Price and his work I’ve included a link to the Weston A. Price Foundation website and a summary article of his work at the end of this post. Even if you’re not much for reading, I would suggest clicking over there to check out the photos of the generations who followed a traditional diet vs. the photos of the generations who switched to a western diet. The photos and the body of work are absolutely eye opening!

However, the good news is, that when diets improved, so did the health and development of future offspring. The damage can be undone! And a great deal of change can be affected within only one generation. We are not doomed to continue getting sicker and sicker if we put a stop to the ludicrous food philosophies we’ve been choking down for the past 20 plus years.

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“If people let the government decide what foods they eat and what medicines they take, their bodies will soon be in as sorry a state as the souls who live under tyranny.”  Thomas Jefferson (1778)

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I’m sure you’re at the point now where you’re asking yourself how I’m going to help you with all of this. And so I shall.

This series of posts are going to cover a basic set of food selection principles based upon the research and findings of a group of nutritional pioneers. These guidelines don’t ban any food-groups and they don’t promote and one-specific diet philosophy.

So with out further adieu, the guidelines are as follows:

  1. Incorporate a proper balance of fats, proteins and carbohydrates in your diet.
  2. Think Variety. Think Seasonally. Think Locally.
  3. Research your water supply and select a good source and/or filtering system.
  4. Avoid refined and denatured foods including:
    • Refined and hydrogenated vegetable oils
    • Refined sugar and corn syrup products
    • White flour products
    • Canned foods
    • Pasturized, homogenized, skim and low-fat dairy products
    • Artificial vitamins
    • Toxic additives and colorings
    • Refined table salt

Don’t get too worked up just yet. Over the following four blog posts I will explain the significance of each of these principles and how they will help you build a strong foundation for lifelong vitality and health.

Health is a journey, it’s not a destination you reach. It’s tuning in to the constant ebb and flow of your body and its homeostatic mechanisms. Health is being in touch with what your body wants and needs and knowing that that may change at different times in your life.

As that lovely cheesy saying goes, give a man a fish, and he eats for a day, teach a man to fish you feed him for a lifetime.

By learning these simple guidelines you’ll be armed with the knowledge and skill to make the healthiest choice you can in any situation, while still enjoying your life. I am all about balance and prioritizing enjoyment- so I guarantee you, if you follow along with this series, you will be MUCH happier as a result! No more guilt every time you go out to eat!!!

Link to Weston A. Price article: 

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I Like to Leave the Door Open.

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There was a time in my social media presence that I wanted to keep it professional. I wanted to appeal to as many people as possible and offend no one. Mostly, I wanted to be like all of the other self-help gurus that I followed because I wanted to reach their level of success.

Now I know there is nothing I want less. 

My life is one of constant growth. I’m one of those people addicted to learning and improvement. Sometimes this really hinders me because I’m way too hard on myself “gotta improve faster!” and other times it leads to magnificent moments of self-discovery. 

One of the most important discoveries that I’ve made is exposing my deep desire to feel authentic. I need to live and work from a very real and unfiltered place. And I’m going to be un-apologetic in my realness and transparent in what I have to share.

I want to reveal to you little by little why this blog is called EAT. LOVE. EVOLVE. and not some generic food-blog-type-name. 

This blog is about nourishment and growth and that’s what I’m here to offer. I know that because this is an authentic work of love from my realest place that it will nourish me as well as I hope it can nourish you.

Nourishment comes from food on a very fundamental level but it also comes from the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual levels of our experience as well. It comes from love in our relationships with those close to us and also the love we feel or don’t feel for ourselves. It comes from evolution – the way we change over our lifetimes that leaves us with feelings of self-worth and accomplishment. 

Obviously, what this looks like for each of us is incredibly different, but I’m here to offer you my hard won insights. And in order for me to offer you a well-rounded source of nourishment that I feel is authentic I need you to be able to really see me

I’m offering a piece of myself in hopes that some of you will relate. I don’t need all of you to relate to me all the time but I need to open the opportunity for those who have felt anything remotely similar to the things I’ve felt to know they aren’t the only ones. 

My journey has involved stripping away the many layers that cocooned my sense of self and becoming incredibly vulnerable. I spent years of not knowing who I was but desperately wanting to be that person.

I’m still on the path to embodying a true, full, bold self in as many moments as I possibly can but what fun would it be if I were already there? 

Along the way I’ve been embarrassed, desperate, lost, confused, and felt trapped. All of these situations have given me the unique perspective I have on food, health, psychology, spirituality, sexuality and love. If I can give you even a glimmer of the experiences that my hard earned lessons have come from I will be satisfied

A teacher very dear to me named Teal Swan wrote an amazing blog you can find here about leaving the ‘delivery room door open’ during your re-birthing process.

This portion of the blog really resonated with me and I wanted to share it as my promise to you in my work:

 “…the very comfort that is needed is the knowledge that you are not alone.  You are not the odd one out.  It’s just that every one else has kept the door to their delivery room closed.  But I refuse to be one of them…  I’m keeping it open…” 

You might be wondering how any of this relates to food. Well, our relationship to everything around us greatly has to do with our relationships to ourselves. Often when we set out on a course of self-improvement and we only focus on the physical realm we fall short and don’t make the changes that we really want to see. 

Don’t get me wrong, our relationships with food can be incredibly complex. Its just that you might start out with just the urge to get “healthier” and end up falling down the rabbit hole. I’m here to discuss food, and all the other weird stuff that might come up along the way. 

 So… this is just the beginning, and hopefully I’ve set the tone for a lovely, delicious growth filled journey, for the both of us 🙂

 If you have any topics you’d like me to cover or questions I can answer please email me at:

millifox@live.com 

 Xo

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