“When you point a finger at someone, you’ve got three fingers pointing right back at you.”
I couldn’t love this phrase more.
When I was younger, I was on the giving and the receiving end of the word bitch. If a woman was less than friendly to me, or maybe seemed a little standoffish, that was the first diagnosis I’d go to: “Oh, she’s kind of a b***h.”, and the same would get said about me. This even trickled into my professional work with my ring sling business; If an influencer responded to a product offer with an answer different than what I’d hoped for, I tossed it up to bitchiness.
Now I don’t want to make assumptions, but I’m sure a lot of you can relate to this. We womxn can pick up the habit easily of taking one exchange or scenario, and using it to label a person for life.
Now that I’m older, I see that people are nuanced, they are not two dimensional. Most of the time when someone says something to or about you, it’s actually revealing more about themselves. Calling other womxn a bitch (especially in a society that would rather womxn live without opinions or radical independence) can sometimes be a grounded reflection in the way you’ve been treated, but is more than often rooted in one thing: Our own codependency.
This week’s video, “Is She A Bitch? Or Is She Well-Boundaried?” is all about this topic. Let’s get into it ladies, because if we don’t have one another’s backs, we’re in trouble.