Why You MUST Balance Your Masculine & Feminine Energies

I used to totally reject the feminine, and live completely in my masculine. ✨

 

Growing up I was a total tomboy, and boy did I love it. I loved hanging out with boys, having more male friends than female friends, and relished in the differences I sensed between myself and the other girls around me. I didn’t know why at the time, but looking back I understand this came from an overall rejection of the feminine in my household. My mother lived in her masculine energy almost exclusively, and I was raised to believe that femininity or feminine energy meant weakness. 

 

We live in a very masculine dominated society. I don’t know if any other former tomboys can relate, but when it was pointed out to be that I wasn’t very tapped into my feminine energy I was pretty upset. 

 

“Why wouldn’t I want to be masculine? Masculinity is success, it’s power. Femininity isn’t that, it’s weak. “

 

After passing through these feelings I began to embrace my feminine side, but as this happened I also began to abandon the masculine! I loved my newfound sense of emotion and vulnerability, and I thought to go back to the masculine world of rigidity and structure meant leaving that behind. 

 

I’m here to tell you that I was wrong. In the battle of masculine vs feminine there is no winner, because there should be no battle in the first place. 🤷🏼‍♀️❤️

 

The masculine and the feminine work best in harmony, and to unlock our fullest selves we must harness both sides of the energetic powers within us. We need both the masculine and the feminine.

In this week’s video, “Why You Must Balance Your Masculine and Feminine Energies”, you’ll hear me reference a metaphor I learned that describes masculine energy as a river’s bedrock, and the feminine as the water that runs through it. The two amplify one another and allow each other’s power to be further upheld. 🙌🏻

Yes, there will be situations that require more masculine channeling and there will be those that require more feminine energy. But when we honor both and spend equal time tapping into both of the powers that exist within us, the stronger we’ll be able to channel our own creative potentials and step into our fullest selves. 

And by the way, I’m not really talking about gender roles here. The little tomboy I was in my childhood was beautiful and I’m not suggesting I should’ve been more “feminine”. What we’re talking about here is energy and modes of operation – structure vs. flow, rigid vs. fluid. 

Whether we like it or not, we all encompass the masculine and the feminine. To embrace both and to honor both is to honor your full self.

 It is, in its truest form, an act of self love. ❤️

While on the topic of honoring our fullest selves and acts of self love, I’d like to let you know that I’m currently holding space for TWO womxn to come into a 9 week 1:1 journey to go through your own manifestation journey. This is a strategic, personal development coaching program to dive into exactly what YOU need for (Maybe we’ll even cover some masculine and feminine channeling goodness 😉). If you’re ready to jump into 2021 by making it a new, different, and leveled up year for you, this process will definitely be up your alley.✨💕

 

Get in touch or set up a call on any platform you can find me and we’ll figure out the best way to work together. 




Sending YOu all the love.
XOXO, Milli 💕

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What Is Human Design?

A Beginner's Guide To Understanding YOu.

I used to feel insecure about my emotions. About being an emotional person. ✨

In the past, when I’d find myself in an “emotional low”, I would do anything I could to  rush myself out of that space and force myself into happiness.

“I’m a coach!” I thought. “I’m invested in emotional healing and personal development,  I should have the tools to avoid emotional lows.”

I’ve since come to understand that the key to acceptance is not changing myself, but embracing myself. And I, at my core, am simply an emotional person. I have a defined emotional center. 🙌🏻💖

And how did I come to this understanding?

By reading my Human Design Chart. ✨💖

I’ve been so excited to dive into Human Design with you guys because it’s so incredible, but it can be pretty complex. So I decided it would be best if I hopped on camera, kept it real with my mom life and bringing Miss Goldie along for some biz time, and gave you a crash course on the basics of Human Design. 🙌🏻


For those who don’t know, human design is a system of energetic proportions founded by a man named Ra Uru Hu in 1992. It uses a  combination of astrology, the chakra system, the I Ching, the tree of life, quantum phsyics, and psychology to help you embrace EXACTLY who you are so you can resist trying to be anything other than that. 


To get all the deets on this life changing system you’ll need to click play, but I do want to make sure you know one thing for sure before diving in: 

Human Design is rooted in neutrality. As you investigate your chart you’ll uncover strengths and weaknesses, and this is okay. 


There is no good or bad when it comes to the results of your chart, where you naturally thrive and where you may lack.✨💖


Click play to learn all about all the basics you need to understand your chart, from the parts that tell you who you are and how to move through the world, to all the fascinating intersections about your identity that make you YOU. 


If you want to live your best life, you have to understand yourself. Thriving reaches it’s peak when we’re operating in a way that’s aligned with our souls. 🙌🏻💖

Now don’t get me wrong: this shit is complicated. And I’m only skimming the surface in this video so you can get a taste of what it’s all about. 

If you leave this video and think “I HAVE to find my chart, but I still don’t now how to read it.” or, “I could really benefit from some additional insight.” I’ve got JUST the thing from you. 

As a SPECIAL BLACK FRIDAY OFFER , I’m doing half- priced Human Design Chart Readings to make sure you know exactly what your chart is saying and how you can best use it to your benefit. 

If you DM or Email me to book now, you’ll get:
       – One full Human Design Chart Reading.
     – ONE FULL WEEK of text/Voxer support with me to help  you deepen your understanding and provide any clarity you need.

             …….all for the low, discounted price of $150. 🙌🏻💖

You are the most beautiful kind of complex, mama. Multi-layered, multi-faceted, and multi-tiered. Let’s figure you out together. Xoxo, Milli

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Is She A Bitch? Or Is She Well-Boundaried?

“When you point a finger at someone, you’ve got three fingers pointing right back at you.”

I couldn’t love this phrase more.

When I was younger, I was on the giving and the receiving end of the word bitch. If a woman was less than friendly to me, or maybe seemed a little standoffish, that was the first diagnosis I’d go to: “Oh, she’s kind of a b***h.”, and the same would get said about me. This even trickled into my professional work with my ring sling business; If an influencer responded to a product offer with an answer different than what I’d hoped for, I tossed it up to bitchiness. 

Now I don’t want to make assumptions, but I’m sure a lot of you can relate to this. We womxn can pick up the habit easily of taking one exchange or scenario, and using it to label a person for life. 

Now that I’m older, I see that people are nuanced, they are not two dimensional. Most of the time when someone says something to or about you, it’s actually revealing more about themselves. Calling other womxn a bitch (especially in a society that would rather womxn live without opinions or radical independence) can sometimes be a grounded reflection in the way you’ve been treated, but is more than often rooted in one thing: Our own codependency.


This week’s video, “Is She A Bitch? Or Is She Well-Boundaried?” is all about this topic. Let’s get into it ladies, because if we don’t have one another’s backs, we’re in trouble.

I’m not gonna judge you for the things you’ve said in the past girl, that’s not what I do. Instead, I’m gonna throw some validation at you so you can carry it into your perspective of those around you. 

  • YOU are not a bitch for knowing your worth. 
  • YOU are not a bitch for staying true to your standards and honoring your boundaries. 
  • YOU are not a bitch for speaking your thoughts and minds. 
  • YOU are not a bitch for refusing to cater to the emotional experience of everyone around you.

 

Society will try and tell you that it’s your job as a womxn to take care of everyone else, and be “nice” at all times. Don’t fall for it, girl. This leads to codependency, which leads to self abandonment, which leads to judgment of the self, which leads to the judgment of others. 

 

Keep self reflecting, keep investigating, and next time you want to call someone a bitch, I invite you to really take some time with the why.

Let's learn to love ourselves so we can love each other just as hard.

P.S! 

Everything we chatted about today is foundational to the things I teach in my course, MOVE GIRL! If you’re interested in hearing more, it’s coming back around in January 2021 so be sure to keep an eye out.

IN THE MEANTIME:

I have a maximum of 2 Spaces left for 1:1 Coaching! If you’d like some personalized space with me for growth, self-love, and all things that bring YOU into your fullest potential, send me a DM or an email and we’ll get you all set up.

xoxo, Milli

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The Hardest Lesson I’ve Ever Had To Learn

As my friends at @forthewildfemme would put it, I had a spiritual smack down this week. 

 

The message the universe has been trying to send me for years finally reached not just my brain, but my heart.

 

Take a seat, take an exhale, and press play on this week’s video, “The Hardest Lesson I’ve Ever Had to Learn” to hear more.

If you’ve followed my content in the past, you might’ve heard me call myself a “self-help junkie”. Constantly reading, watching, listening, doing anything I could to get my hands on resources that would better me. I used to wear that title with pride, but since working with my spiritual healer my mindset has changed and to be honest, my mind’s a little blown.

The thing is guys, when it comes to whatever you’re searching for, WHATEVER is on your heart and limiting you from embodying your fullest potential, I have one thing to say: 

Stop. Seeking. The. Answer. Outside. Of. Yourself.

Now before you say “Uh..yeah Milli, I know that already?” I want you to stop and reflect. Maybe you know this is true in your mind, but do you know it’s true in your heart? Do you really embody it with your whole self? 

I didn’t before either. It’s okay. 

For me, learning this lesson was about truly believing and committing to the fact that everything I need is ACTUALLY within me. It was about understanding that being is more important than doing. 

And how do we begin to do this?

We ground. We love. We sit. We breathe. We force ourselves to detach from the constant striving toward something that we already contain.

You are whole. You are not broken. You are not a DIY self-help project. 

If you leave this feeling like you need some help processing, I’m here to help. Not as an answer, not as a “fix”, but as a support and a way to pull back the curtain on the light that’s already within.

I have two open 1:1 coaching spots for November that I created specifically for this purpose. It’s gonna be personal, intimate, and soulful. Whatever YOU uniquely need to come home to yourself and live the life of your dreams, we’ll find it together. The price is $444 and you have until the end of the month to reach out to me however is best for you to secure your spot. (Even if you’re seeing this once November has started – message me anyway because I may still have an offer for you!)

I’m also offering a $250 Voxer coaching program next month called “Manifest In A Month With Milli”! This is a much more flexible, affordable mode of coaching where you can reach into your pocket and connect with me any time of day and get your individual questions answered. If this interests you, follow the same protocol of the 1:1 Coaching and message me as soon as you can so we can get you set up. 

Let's start with the heart together, my loves.

xoxo- Milli

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Our Two Deepest Needs

Power and Attention. “Love” and “Significance”. That’s what It's all about.

According to an ad I keep seeing, the two things we need most give to our children are attention, and power. These are obviously not the only things they need, but out of all the little cups that make up our children’s needs, power and attention require the most filling. 

 

The more I think about “attention”, the more it really bubbles down to love, and the more I research this idea of “power”, the more I know it to mean “significance.” Let’s work with those terms for a bit, “Love” and “Significance”.

 

I was really moved by this ad when I saw it, and had to do more research because I am a huge believer that we cannot optimally give to our children what we’re not also giving to ourselves. As is the case with any relationship, it’s only when we have excess that we can give to another person without taking from our own supply. Our own needs. 

 

So here’s the question I’m asking in this week’s vid called “Our Two Deepest Needs”, mamas: How is your cup being filled?

 

If you watch this week’s video and realize you aren’t filling your cups the way you’d like to, don’t worry. I’m not here to scold you, and I’m certainly not here to suggest that you stop providing for your children until you can find a new game plan. But I have a few ideas up my sleeve that might pave the way for you to provide yourself more love and significance while also managing everything else around you. 

 

As you’ll see in this weeks vid, I’m currently vibing with “The Empress” and her energy big time. (For those who don’t know, The Empress is a card in Tarot decks, which is a major part of my spiritual practice.) The Empress is a queen, mother, warrior, seductress, *insert any other badass elements you can think of here*. 

 

She fills her own cup. She makes it happen for herself.

 

This is something we can all be doing, ladies. This is something we all deserve to be doing. I love The Empress, and I think we all have an inner Empress that simply needs channeling to make filling our cups a little easier. 

 

To help us all find our inner Empress together, I’m going to put together a free training all about embracing our own “Empress Energy”. Together we’ll dive into filling up those “power” and “attention” cups not just for our little ones, but for ourselves. 

 

IF YOU’RE INTERESTED IN SIGNING UP FOR MY EMPRESS ENERGY TRAINING, Respond to the email you linking you to this post saying “I’m interested!”, comment on the Youtube vid, or click “Contact” from the above navigation tab and I will make sure you’re set up with all the info you need.

IN THE MEANTIME, my self-love worksheet is totally free and will get you set on the right foot to filling up that love cup. To access it, simply check out the downloads tab above. 

Power and Attention. Love and Significance. We all need both, ladies.

Cheers to filling up our cups.

With love (and significance),

Milli

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